Eight Tips on How To Ask

From the book The Aladdin Factor authored by Jack Canfield and Mark V. Hansen, they gave us these tips on how to ask for the things that we want.

Eight Tips on How to Ask

1.Ask Expecting To Get It

 “Expect your every need to be met. Expect the answer to every problem, expect abundance on every level…” — Eileen Caddy

•  Ask with a Positive Expectation

“We tend to get what we expect.” — Norman Vincent Peale

• See It In The Way You Want It To Be

“We usually get what we anticipate.” — Claude M. Bristol

• Ask with Conviction
• Assume You Can

2. Ask Somebody Who Can Give It To You

• Realize that some people aren’t capable of delivering
• Ask the person whose business it is to know
• Ask people who are qualified and motivated to help
• Ask the experts
• Reconsider who is an expert
• Get the other’s full attention

3. Be Clear And Specific

• Be specific in your requests.
• Be careful what you ask for.
• Be very specific in all your requests.
• Ask for what you want.
• It’s possible to be too specific.

4. Ask From Your Heart

• Ask with Passion.
• Have an unbridled passion for your purpose, project, or goal.
• Ask with urgency and passion.

“Enthusiasm moves the world.” –J. Balfour

• Ask with eye contact.

“The eyes are the landing strip to the heart, and for me, the heart is where the soul is.” — Stan Dale

• Ask in a kind of voice.
• Ask politely.
• Ask with respect and admiration.

5. Ask With Humor and Creativity

• Ask with humor.

“A clever, imaginative, humorous request can open closed doors and closed minds.” — Percy Rose

• Ask creatively.

“Imagination is more important than knowledge.” — Albert Einstein

6. Give In Order To Get

• Give something to get something.
• You have to give to get.

I believe you can get everything you want in life if you will just help enough other people get what they want.” — Zig Ziglar

• Give a gift.
• Give compliments or praise.

“Praise does wonders for the sense of hearing.” — Source Unknown

• Explain what’s in it for them.

“Never make your appeal to a man’s better nature; he may not have one. Always make your appeal to his self-interest.” –Lazarus Long

• Tell your partner how it benefits him or her.

7. Ask Repeatedly

• Just say, NEXT!

The key to getting everything you want is to never put all your begs in one ask it!” — Anonymous

• Look forward to the “No’s.”
• Ask the same people again and again.
• Be tenacious, persevere, never give up.

“If at first, you don’t succeed, try, try again.” — William E. Hickson

• Just one more time?

“Never give up, for that is just the place and time that the tide will turn.” — Harriet Beecher Stowe

8. How To Deal With Resistance

• Don’t lose your cool!
• What needs to happen for me to …
• Don’t create resistance.
• Ask with authority and be prepared for a no.
• A “no” maybe a blessing in disguise.
• Be gracious in accepting a NO.
• Don’t burn your bridges.

In Summary

These are some great tips on how to ask. In the previous articles, we delve into what to ask, and why to ask. Now it is all about how to ask. Asking is important because if we do not ask, then we will never reach our best potential. We will continue to live mediocre lives and not even know it.

But like everything in this world, everything is relative. What is important is we are happy and we live the life we want.

Source

Canfield, J & Hansen, M. (1995).The Aladdin Factor. The Berkley Publishing Group, New York, New York. p. 123-163